Laura B. Becker

Being the first in my family to pursue doctoral work, I never truly understood how my parents viewed this endeavor.  Even though both of my parents, Maxine and Norman, valued education, they were never afforded the opportunity that I was able to undertake.

Because of circumstances of marrying and moving as I began writing the dissertation, and then having a child, and subsequently divorcing, my path to completion of the research and writing had many interruptions.  Consequently, the delay in completing and defending my dissertation was significant. 

As one might imagine, during this time of tumult, I had great doubts about my abilities to design and carry out the experiments, and especially to write clearly about the results and the significance of the work.  I had great support from my academic advisors and colleagues, but even more important was the emotional support I had from my parents. 

Upon the completion of the dissertation defense, my parents sponsored a celebration attended by my dissertation committee, friends, colleagues, and most importantly, my daughter.  After the celebration, my parents gave me a precious gift that I cherish to this day: a Navaho sterling silver bear fetish with the following note:  “This bear fetish is a symbol of power and courage, qualities that we have always known you to possess.  Your perseverance allowed you to come to this special and important day.”

When I wear it around my neck and when I think of the bear fetish, I can feel not only the Navaho symbolism, but also the great strength and support of my parents.  For this I am forever grateful.